Nerd. Poet.: 10 qualities to look for in a good relationship match
10. Empathy: An individual’s ability to empathize with you is crucial in a relationship. Empathy is an important relationship skill that both parties should develop. Empathy is the ability to view the world from your partner’s eyes. Being able to put yourself in…
Julio Diaz has a daily routine. Every night, the 31-year-old social worker ends his hour-long subway commute to the Bronx one stop early, just so he can eat at his favorite diner.
But one night last month, as Diaz stepped off the No. 6 train and onto a nearly empty platform, his evening took an unexpected turn.
He was walking toward the stairs when a teenage boy approached and pulled out a knife.
“He wants my money, so I just gave him my wallet and told him, ‘Here you go,’” Diaz says.
As the teen began to walk away, Diaz told him, “Hey, wait a minute. You forgot something. If you’re going to be robbing people for the rest of the night, you might as well take my coat to keep you warm.”
The would-be robber looked at his would-be victim, “like what’s going on here?” Diaz says. “He asked me, ‘Why are you doing this?’”
Diaz replied: “If you’re willing to risk your freedom for a few dollars, then I guess you must really need the money. I mean, all I wanted to do was get dinner and if you really want to join me … hey, you’re more than welcome.
“You know, I just felt maybe he really needs help,” Diaz says.
Diaz says he and the teen went into the diner and sat in a booth.
“The manager comes by, the dishwashers come by, the waiters come by to say hi,” Diaz says. “The kid was like, ‘You know everybody here. Do you own this place?’”
“No, I just eat here a lot,” Diaz says he told the teen. “He says, ‘But you’re even nice to the dishwasher.’”
Diaz replied, “Well, haven’t you been taught you should be nice to everybody?”
“Yea, but I didn’t think people actually behaved that way,” the teen said.
Diaz asked him what he wanted out of life. “He just had almost a sad face,” Diaz says.
The teen couldn’t answer Diaz — or he didn’t want to.
When the bill arrived, Diaz told the teen, “Look, I guess you’re going to have to pay for this bill ‘cause you have my money and I can’t pay for this. So if you give me my wallet back, I’ll gladly treat you.”
The teen “didn’t even think about it” and returned the wallet, Diaz says. “I gave him $20 … I figure maybe it’ll help him. I don’t know.”
Diaz says he asked for something in return — the teen’s knife — “and he gave it to me.”
Afterward, when Diaz told his mother what happened, she said, “You’re the type of kid that if someone asked you for the time, you gave them your watch.”
“I figure, you know, if you treat people right, you can only hope that they treat you right. It’s as simple as it gets in this complicated world.”
FAITH IN HUMANITY RESTORED
THIS IS WHAT JESUS WOULD DO EVERYONE
JUST SAYING
THIS IS HOW HE WANTS US TO ACT IRL
TO LOVE OUR ENEMIES AND PRAY FOR THOSE WHO PERSECUTE US
This is great. I wish there were more people like this guy.
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Hey guys! Sorry its been so inactive around here. I’m slowly but surely getting finished with my finals.
Anyway, I found this and thought I had to share. The way body language can tell how a person is really feeling is something that I consider very interesting. I think it would be a great way to show, in a subtle way, how a character is really feeing.
Hope its useful! And good luck with finals! Hopefully, this place will be a bit more active once summer kicks in.
THIS IS FREAKING AWESOME
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"Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.” – Steve Jobs"
http://www.devacoaching.com/2012/02/06/21-quotes-crush-someday-thinking/
tumblrbot asked: WHAT MAKES YOU FEEL BETTER WHEN YOU ARE IN A BAD MOOD?
I listen to Eat the Rich by Aerosmith over and over loud enough to make my ears bleed.
Thank You
Thank you all for the likes, and new followers: Hi and thanks for the interest. I hope that this blog is hopeful for all of us. I hope you all feel free to comment and talk over whatever grabs you, even if it’s just tangentally related to the posts. :)
Searching for Myself
From time to time in my life, I’ve been confronted by the fact that I don’t have an identity. Instead, I’ve spent a portion of my life playing different roles like little brother, son, student, friend, or husband, but one thing they’ve all had in common was my devotion to someone else. If I made new friends, I would let my hair grow long, swear, become passionate about racial equality, or stop swearing all based on what I thought would make them happy and as a young child, this let me easily make friends, but that only lasted for so long.
There was a point where my peers began to make choices and differentiate themselves as they matured and it wasn’t enough for me to just say things or change superficially to please them anymore. I continued to be out of touch with myself and a deeply seated sadness began to take root, though I didn’t know why or what to do about it. I became more and more detatched and quiet as social situations became more complex. I couldn’t see what it took to please everyone in the room, so I didn’t say much of anything at all. Whenever I was challleneged by someone I backed down, not realizing that it wasn’t important that everyone agree with what I thought, just that I thought something and that I was willing to assert something, anything at all and I came close to fading away to nothing.
I lived in my head in video games, books, movies. I inhabited main characters who lent me their personalities and I enjoyed the agency that a clearly defined identity can offer through them. On the internet, I’ve found a world of differing points of view and wonderful, creative people in the world willing and able to fight and stand up for the things that they believe in. I found my way into a virtual world called Second Life where I could define my identity as anythying I wanted it to be and began to interact with other people as many things I wished I were in real life. I could present myself as attractive and confident, curious and open to trying new things and through it, I started to become myself.
I’ve managed to apply some of what I’ve learned in SL to my real life and because of that a few people have come into it who listen to me when I speak. People I spend time with just because I enjoy it, not because I need something from them. I’ve discovered my love of Fine Art and fiction, where a full appreciation demands self exploration and understanding. Most importantly, I’ve learned that the best listener in the world is a blank sheet of paper, willing to hear the everything that I want to say and patient enough to wait for me to choose every word and place every comma perfectly. The written word has become my best friend.
The next step in this will be to form my own thoughts and share them with others here, even if they may be objectionable to some and not because I want to get something out of the people reading, but because they’re mine. Each day, I try to push the envelope in my real life and integrate my own thoughts and the way that I live my life into a coherent whole, even though it can be terrifying.
I have so much more work ahead of me and many challenges that make the ones that I’ve face up to this point seem like nothing. The deeper I look into myself the more difficult the revelations become to accept and the stakes get higher and higher. The process involves a lot of stumbling around in the dark, searching for answers when I’m not even sure what the questions are, but I know that the rewards are greater than anything I’ve dared to dream so far.
I’m ready.
